The Upward or the Downward Spiral of Living

March 21, 2011 – 10:06 pm

I believe that each human is either progressing and developing good things, or progressing towards and generating bad things, that is, degenerating. Many people have gone before me and done a better job explaining it, possibly with better cited sources and references, laws of physics and archeological evidences. Whatever. I just keep it simple.

We are either growing or decaying.
We are moving forward or backsliding.

I call it the upward spiral or the downward spiral.

Have you ever noticed that the rich get richer? The poor get poorer? Of course you have, because it is an old adage. However “rich” and “poor” can be replaced with just about any other human condition. The grumpy get grumpier, the unsatisfied get more frustrated, the joyful become blissful and the smart get smarter.

These are all true. It is axiomatic.

But it is also true, but only sometimes, that the poor become rich. The sad become happy, the uneducated get educated. How is this possible? And why is it only true for some people? I think it has to do with a lot of things, but perhaps it begins with CHOOSING which spiral to be on. Most people, I think, don’t know they have the right or the power to choose such a thing. Like a boat drifting with the current, they just go with the flow. But we are not boats. We are men and women with minds and spirits and souls that are precious, intricate, powerful and beautiful.

We are able to choose.

Now, Keshav, what about self esteem? It is the same. Rather than trying to fooling ourselves (can’t be done, anyway) into thinking we are fine human beings, let’s just be real: We have infinite value, each of us. We are loved by God, we are each works of art, a poem that He has spoken. That is not the issue with “self” esteem. But are we living up to it in our deeds and the work of our hands and through the words of our lips? Are we building up and not tearing down? In order to have accurate self-esteem we must be honest. In order to esteem ourselves as growing (which is good!) we must be growing. So we must step onto the upward spiral. Then we prove to ourselves that we are valuable because we are not victims of circumstance, but we defy circumstance and reach up, build up, and fill up.

Simply stated, if you want onto the upward spiral, stop doing what people do when on the downward spiral and start doing what people on the upward spiral do. Make it real by becoming a person on the upward spiral. It happens in an instant. Stay on the upward spiral as long as you can, and when you slip back onto the wrong spiral have courage and just get back on the one that carries you up toward your dreams and your goals.

The first half of Your Ultimate Sales Force is about this very thing: being attractive and effective. Having confidence and skills and purpose. Of the 478 pages, half of them are about what happens inside the professional. There are 2 chapters on Choosing and Choice. Why? Because we all need to get onto the upward spiral. We all slip sometimes and need to choose again in favor of Up. We all need courage and skills.

What do people do on the upward spiral? What do we need to stop doing lest we stay on the downward one? These are the questions for you to contribute the answers to, Keshav.

Twitter success, question mark.

March 22, 2010 – 11:27 am

So I have been on Facebook and on Twitter and even on for quite some time now. Facebook I like because it is actually my friends and people that I know/deal with that are on there with me. I like because it is all about business and the social side of business, and I appreciate the mission. Twitter I like, just because it is entertaining and fast-paced.

But I really haven’t had much success on any of them. I define that as “new connections at the very least, that will lead to new business or new opportunities to make new business happen.” I am new to it all still, even though I have been “on” them for a while because I haven’t been intent on succeeding and learning. I get that. No one ever became an astronaut on accident. I am on the verge of becoming a skeptic now, so now is the time to really learn it, or learn that it is all a waste of time and resources…

So, as I gear up my intention level, I want to start with one medium, Twitter, and get to the “how to” of it. Then, I can move on to the others. I have been doing some “tweeting” and have about 500 “followers.” I enjoy the links to interesting articles and quotes that people post. I have 2 names: @BizBuildersUSA , which I primarily use, and @SalesMercenary which I use/post on a limited basis. I post cool quotes and I put up some links to my sites and to others. The inbox thing seems useless. That is, it is just full of “thanks for the follow” stuff and “click here to earn $5,000 a day” that I just delete, because I assume it is some auto-responder crapola. So, like I said, I am on the verge of being a Twitter -Unbeliever…

Therefore, I think that the most encouraging and useful thing that I could start with would be some success stories. This is where you come in.

a) If you have had a success, chime in here. Hit comment and tell us about it.

b) If you have not had a successful track record, even though you feel you have done the activities…. join me in the quest. Look for someone with me and ask them to post on this blog, so that we can gather some knowledge of the possibilities.

c) If you think that Social Networking is just not good for business, let me know why and what brought you to that conclusion.

The end-game here is to find out why so many people are involved in social networking and how to capture or create some results. We can get to the How-to in a little while, so let’s start with some success stories and work our way to the activities that will propel us to our own definitions of success.

Hit “comments” below and leave your thoughts.

Reviews & Comments & Q’s

March 21, 2010 – 12:19 pm

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Developing Skills or Not

March 13, 2010 – 4:35 pm

I just started reading a book called Plug Your Book! Online. It was a free download for my Alkido eReader that I downloaded for my HTC Droid, which, by the way, is a cool way to read books (One day, we will possibly have an eBook of YUSF or the companion workbook/pamphlet). Plug Your Book! Online is very well written, easy to follow, even for an Online Neanderthal like me. I got the feeling that the book has been around for a while, because it talked about “as download speeds increase, video on websites will be more and more effective,” but nevertheless, the guy knows his stuff and I got a lot of insights and an action plan.

You can find all his (Steve Weber) writings and a bunch of cool stuff on his site/blog :

But who cares, really, about what I am doing? The Big Q is, “what are you doing?” If you are reading this, you most likely are in sales or in business for yourself. Here’s a self-test to see if you are doing or mildewing:

1) What was the last thing you studied that will increase your knowledge and skill to take you to the next level?
2) What is the last thing you stopped doing that was distracting you from being your best, doing your best, and living your best.